I say things all the time that I know I may or may not do in the future. I have full intentions on doing those things but if something diverts my attention you can forget that I even said that. And, yes, word is bond--for sure. However, I've been like this since I can remember and my friends and family know to take my words at face value. Well, the motherfuckas I deal with don't know this about me and it is this very thing that ends every potential relationship (of any kind, sexual or fully romantic).
Case in point--I was working on a big project for work one night. Me and dude were talking and I just couldn't focus on him and making sure that everything in the report was correct so I said that I would give him a call back when I left the office. Well, I didn't leave the office until 1:30 a.m. and I know he has to be to work at 5:45 a.m. So, I did call back and I did say, as a way of "making up" that I would call him after my 9:00 meeting the next morning. Why did I say that?
Well, my 9:00 meeting ended up being an all day event with my boss and co-workers. Needless to say I never called. Now, typically we don't even address when one doesn't call the other when we say but that day I got a text saying, "...you always forget about me."
Now, dude is not a needy type motherfucka because this is what we do--call when we can, talk when we have time and leave it where it is. But, his text got me to thinking because dudes tell me this all the time. And its not that I don't call because I don't want to talk (well, most of the time), its just that I have other shit on my plate. And dependent upon the day, that person can't be the meat. They might end up being dessert--the last thing on the list. So, I had to stop and ask myself, "...am I not attentive enough and is that the reason I'm single and have been?" and for that matter "...is that the reason why my relationships don't last?" Now, for the youngins, their probably reading like, "dude, its not that serious" and that is the way I've always been, but should I change the way I deal with motherfuckas when it comes to being attentive? I am soooooo the, "I'll deal with it when I can" type of dude--how to change that I have no idea, but hey, its worth a try to do it differently...
How do you deal with this type of shit in your own relationships?